Jul 27, 2012

Learning to trust

Jay and his bff are now staying with a couple that is good friends with me, right down the street.  This is a much better place than he was staying before.  I think the wife and I are going to be very good friends.  Do you ever just meet people that you click with instantly? That's how it is since I have met her.  The fact that they didn't hesitate about renting to the boys really touched me.  Tina is not stable enough to deal with anymore people.  She has her own issues with her son.  Deep down inside I believe that she really doesn't want him to be independent.  It has always been just the two of them.  Now that her husband has passed, he is all she has.  I am not a big fan of telling a young boy that he is now the man of the house, which is what she told him. All of our kids are trying to find their way in this world and they don't need any clinging moms to hinder them. 

Everytime I make a new female friend I always have trust issues.  Katie doesn't make me feel that way. I "get" her and she likewise understands me.  I have been so careful to whom I open my heart to since Kenny died.  Now I realize I do need friends in my life.  It's been so long since I have visited other people.  I tend to stay in my house because it makes me feel safe. Not any longer.  I am ready to start dipping my toes in new and uncharted waters.  I feel there are many new beginnings still out there.  I don't want to miss them. 

Time to run errands...Have a great weekend everybody.  Remember, thrive don't just survive!  Peace!


bugerlugs63 said...

Great post Lori.
That's good that you have a new friendship starting with someone who you feel you can trust.
As you say, many new beginnings, lots to look forward to . . . I feel like that somedays :-)
Love to you Lori x

the walking man said...

Trust 'em til you bust 'em. I will always start out trusting a friendship until it is abused then I choose if it is worth keeping or not.

Yes on "the man of the house" thing. Quickest way in the world to make the kid despise her when he starts to think for himself.

luluberoo said...

I think women need women friends. Men are great, don't get me wrong, but girlfriends are who you really dish with. I'm blessed with 2 wonderful friends for over 25 years. We have NO secrets.

Glad for J's living arrangement. It all worked out for the best!

Lori said...

bugerlugs63- Well here is a toast to you from across the pond. To new beginnings! xoxo

WM- It took me years to learn what you have. (trust 'em til you bust 'em) Now I keep my eyes wide open going into all new ventures.
Cheers to re-enforcing what I believe regarding making a young boy "The man of the house"....It has always felt wrong to me. Smooches...

Luluberoo- I agree. When two women sit down to talk we understand and relate to each other so well. Men really are from Mars.lol..I am also glad J's living arrangement worked out. xoxo