Dec 9, 2009

My mother

My mother is mentally not well. I moved her into her new place last Monday. She received a letter on her door yesterday to please find a new place to live by the end of the week. I read the letter. They, the group of women, are tired of her regaling them with stories of her illness, ailments and problems. They are a happy bunch. They are all in their 70's. They go out and drink, dance and shop. They love life. My mother is a bitter, miserable cold woman. My brother couldn't handle her for years and simply stayed away. I have had her as a burden for many years. Actually Kenny, my late husband, was the patient one. He took care of her. Yet when he was dying she wouldn't even bring him a drink of water. I try to find forgiveness. It's hard. I feel pity. She has til Sunday to find a place according to the landlord. Actually they have to legally evict her. She lasted 7 days! Unfuckingbelievable. My plate is full. My brother and Jesse and I all get along. We always have. It's nice to have a male in the house to help with Jesse when he has his macho moments. He loves my brother. There is no room for mom. She drains me. What do you do with a 66 year old woman who has not one friend on the planet. Anyone have a room for rent? PLEASE!!! Just kidding, but this is something I simply refuse to deal with. I am done. Off to work for me...

5 comments:

Sarcastic Bastard said...

I am sorry to hear this, Lori. I don't blame you for not wanting to put up with her crap anymore.

Sending you love,

SB

Whitemist said...

this is a tough one and of course around Christmas as well. I am sorry you are in that place.
My mom could have gone that route and would have it I had not moved her near the place she grew up. It was a better call for me. I do not say you have that choice and I can only pray for some solution. On the side, my mom is 87.

Lori said...

SB- I am not the most patient human being to begin with. I have zero tolerance for stupidity. My mom just gives you this vibe instantly, a mean vibe. I can't deal with it anymore, simply can't my friend.

Whitemist- I suggested to my mom that she go back to work. Ever since she has retired she has declined rapidly. Work gave her a sense of purpose. I don't think she realized how alone she was until she did retire. She didn't plan finacially for her "golden years"..so between money and personal feelings she is very bitter. You seem to be a rather patient person. I am lacking it with her. I wait on seniors constantly and enjoy them. I found her a place, I just hope she can keep it.

the walking man said...

Time for momma to get with the program and realize she is on her own and that your enabling days are done.

Lori said...

Mark- you just summed up the situation. I mentally can't do it. J is close to graduating finally and than I am getting him his college loan and that is my main goal at the present time. She is 66, not 19. I think the younger one needs my help much more. I have airfare, I wonder how she would fare in your city?