Aug 8, 2009

Can you ever win being a parent?????




My son bucked and fought about moving to Georgia. Told us we ruined his life. Well now that I have found a place he is mad, again. I give up. I love that baggy pants wearing kid with all my heart. I thought he would be ecstatic about moving back to Bmore, HIS hometown...I do believe it might be a case of the laziness about packing and moving. Yeah it sucks, but so does me being miserable everyday. I understand his fears about the temptations that lurk in the big city, but those same demons are here also. They are everywhere. Ask any recovering addict.. Geographical change works for some time, but if you want something bad enough, you will find it. This child has not accomplished anything since we have moved here, except to get very good at playing world of warcraft. That's wonderful, but the real world is zooming by and I am not going to be alive forever. That virtual reality that these kids have nowadays I am afraid isn't always so great. When I was growing up we all wanted to move out at 18. See the world, be on our own. What the f happened? I now see a bunch of young adults living in their parents basements because they chose some crazy major that isn't applicable in the job market. They look for jobs on the Internet rather than go out in person. God forbid. I have always gotten a job by walking in the front door and meeting the hiring manager and shaking their hand. Sigh, and my dad walked 20 miles in cardboard shoes to school...the saga never ends...

5 comments:

Lou said...

Lori, it sounds like teenager talk. They always gripe about everything. I would not worry too much about it.

When he said that about temptations, was he talking about you or him? Does he worry about you relapsing?
I'm sure you talk to him about it, but it almost sounds like he wants some reassurance...

the walking man said...

Tell him he can stay in GA if he can pay his own way. He might be comfortable with the church folks in GA *shrug* None of mine will ever come to the slums to live with us.

Lori said...

Lou- He loves Baltimore, but he does have bad memories regarding drugs. There are drugs here. I constantly re-assure him. He knows the man we are renting the house from has zero tolerance for any type of substance abuse. He is grieving and so am I. So far he has accomplished zero since hitting GA, except getting his license. I am pusing his education which he swears he has to be in Baltimore to get. I am pulling the proverbial card. Temptation lurks around every corner. There are corners down here too, I just take the scenic route now. It's about choices now. It always has been.

Mark- That is pretty much what I told him. I found a place with a mother in law apt for my mom and him. I will be on the third floor with my own room. The neighborhood is pretty decent and he knows his way around and his friends are up there. He now knows the bs'ing is over and he is going to have to step up to the plate. I will do anything I can go help him, but if you help someone to much, it does more harm and is no longer help...Ah, and you don't live in the damn slums, and if you got sick your kids might surprise you Mark..stranger things have happened..

Lori said...

Lou- He loves Baltimore, but he does have bad memories regarding drugs. There are drugs here. I constantly re-assure him. He knows the man we are renting the house from has zero tolerance for any type of substance abuse. He is grieving and so am I. So far he has accomplished zero since hitting GA, except getting his license. I am pusing his education which he swears he has to be in Baltimore to get. I am pulling the proverbial card. Temptation lurks around every corner. There are corners down here too, I just take the scenic route now. It's about choices now. It always has been.

Mark- That is pretty much what I told him. I found a place with a mother in law apt for my mom and him. I will be on the third floor with my own room. The neighborhood is pretty decent and he knows his way around and his friends are up there. He now knows the bs'ing is over and he is going to have to step up to the plate. I will do anything I can go help him, but if you help someone to much, it does more harm and is no longer help...Ah, and you don't live in the damn slums, and if you got sick your kids might surprise you Mark..stranger things have happened..

Gledwood said...

Tell him it could be worse. He could've moved to Georgia in the former USSR ~~!!!